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My Desk: The Pit of Despair…

 

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One of my all time favorite movies is The Princess Bride.  I am not going to summarize it here, but you should watch it if you haven’t.  If you have seen it, watch it again.  It is fantastic.  Anyway, in the movie there is a hidden torture chamber that the albino calls the “Pit of Despairrrrrrrrr” (clears throat) “The Pit of Despair”.  In this pit the hero is tortured and this that and the other happens.

Now, keep that in mind while I tell you this story.  Long time readers of this blog know that my family has undergone some stress in recent years.  A daughter on dialysis, a kidney transplant, a new baby, a new home.  Well all of this has taken it’s toll on my kids.  They have taken it very very well but sometimes things come out that we know is stress related.  We took my oldest son to a counselor to just talk a bit about his feelings.

One of the suggestions that she had for helping him to deal with everything was to pretend to blow up a balloon whenever he was feeling stressed and just let it go.  It worked.  Now we try to get him to blow up balloons when he has too much energy, or is sad, or is mad.  Well, today he was sad.  Some things happened and at the end of it I yelled at him.  The reason is not important.

At bedtime we sit as a family and discuss the day.  This is when I found out that he and my daughter had both blew up several sad balloons, mad balloons and left them on my desk.  So now I have dubbed my desk the Pit of Despair.  And it will be the pit of despair from now on.  Life choices made from this chair of torture, dealings with the world right here from the Pit.  It is kind of fun, and a bit cool to have the pit available.

We name boats, houses, manors and now my desk.  So I ask you good readers, what unusual things do you have names for that are either ironic, silly or fitting?  I want to hear some of these.  I will post a list of my favorites in the next couple of days.  Go on!  Comment!

As you wish, kids, as you wish.

-Justin

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My 4 year old’s 1 year Birthday is today!

Today marks 1 year since my daughter Amelia received her Kidney Transplant!  This is a copy of the post I put up today on our Carepage, the family blog that keeps grandmas and friends informed of what has happened with Amelia.

I have posted links to copies of that Carepage, the posts from the day of the transplant and the day before.  These links are on my website.  If you click any links on those pages, it will direct you to the Carepages site where you will have to register in order to see more.  Feel free to, but you don’t have to.  This is the direct link to her page: www.carepages.com and her carepage name is ameliarosematthews.

anyway, this is a direct copy of  todays post on the Carepage:

12 May 2010

Well friends, it is finally here, Amelia has had her new kidney for 1 year!

We keep looking back at how fast it has actually gone.  From the Transplant on the 12th,  to her going home on the 18th (6 days in the hospital for a MAJOR surgery kids, she is a trooper!).

Through all of the clinic visits and blood draws, 2X per week for the first month, 2 blood draws and 1 clinic per week for the second month, Every other week clinic and weekly blood draws for the third month, every other week clinic and blood draws for month 4-6, and then to once a month.  After our next visit in June, We will be on quarterly clinic visits and monthly labs.  That is quite a drop!

By my calculations, that has been 32 blood draws (plus a couple of unscheduled ones for illnesses) over the year, 20 of those coming in the first 3 months!  That was a lot of poking for Amelia.  Now, at once a month, it is much easier on her.  She is still a trooper with it though.  She stick her arm out and lets them poke her, and then tells everyone she sees where she got poked!

The nurse at transplant clinic gets told which arm to do blood pressures on because she can’t do them on the same arm as the poke!  I really love the determination of a 4 year old.  Some days it is interesting to see just how much she remembers and knows about the procedures she has gone through.

She continues to do very well in her overall health.  There have been a couple of bumps over the past year but nothing that required her to be hospitalized for.  We are pretty proud of that, many kids who get transplants are back in the hospital multiple times.

We have kept her away from many situations that could compromise her health and we don’t take her many places if she is sick.  That has helped.  We are looking forward to getting back to church and church activites more.

Right now, she is only on 2 regular medications, much better than the 8+ she was on last year after transplant.  We tapered them down and now, she is only on the 2 anti-rejection meds that she will be on for the rest of her life.  Just a reminder, these medications keep her immune system slightly suppressed to prevent rejection.  This is why we have to be careful and still steer away from sick people, she can’t fight diseases as easily as the other kids.

It has been a wild ride so far, we hope to keep going in the same direction.  Amelia is currently in the final stages of potty training, something that was much delayed with dialysis and the fact that no urine is produced with no kidney’s.  She is finally figuring it out and is almost half way to her one month “no accident” prize!

We also wanted to thank Carol again and again for her gift to Amelia.  It is still a wonderful thing that we think about every day.  When we think back to dialysis and how we had to structure our lives around it we can’t help but think how Carols donation has helped out whole family.  We have much more time together.

We are looking forward to having a barbecue with Carol and her family this Saturday if the weather will cooperate.  We will have to see.

And finally, I thought I would list the links back to the day before and the day of the transplant, if you are interested in reading about it as it happened.  Brenda still has a hard time reading some of these and so do I.  I am working on a book right now about this whole experience and I am going to use these carepage posts extensively.  As for today,

Amelia Meets Carol 5-11-09, day before transplant

Day of Transplant

Update 1 of 5

Update 2 of 5

Update 3 of 5

Update 4 of 5

Update 5 of 5

We wanted to thank all of you who have been with us since the beginning, and all of those who have joined us on the way over these past 3 years.

I hope that we have been able to explain what has happened to everyones satisfaction.

I hope that we have been able to give some help along the way (Hi Pollock family!).

We appreciate all of the support that has been given to us over these 3 years.  We have had a wonderful outpouring of love and support from all of you.  Our lives have been blessed and we feel like you are all a part of our extended family.  Thank you again and again.

We are coming to you live and kicking 365 days into the new kidney!

-Justin

PS look for new pictures!

Why do Doctors have all of the time in the world?

I took my 3 year old to her transplant clinic appointment today.

I have taken her to many of them since she was diagnosed with kidney failure, and all through dialysis and now 7 months after her transplant.  It continuously amazes me how those clinics could give a jolly jack fart about your time yet freak out if you are any bit late to the appointment.  Granted some times it is quick but good grief.

Today, after I registered at the hospital (15 mins) and then waited for labs to be drawn (25 mins) I was about 20 minutes late for our appointment.  I thought that we would be next in line and sail through.  But I was of course WRONG!!!  although it was only another 35 minutes of waiting in the waiting room followed by another 20 of waiting in the clinic room.  All told, we spent 2 hours and 20 minutes for what amounted to 5 mins with the doctor and about that with the dietician and the social worker.

Oh well.  what can you do.  It’s not like complaining does any good, they just say that they are busy.  So what exactly is the point of making an appointment?  For that matter, what is the point of not just coming a half hour late?  I am sure you would still have to wait.  I should have brought my ketllebell, that would make them wonder, a sweaty guy swinging iron in the childrens hospital….maybe next month….

Justin

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Who is the strongest person you know?

So really, who is the strongest person you know?  and I don’t just mean in terms of being able to pick up heavy stuff.  I mean strong in personality and just traits that can make them able to do anything that needs to be done.  Being able to lift heavy things is just a bonus.

For me, the strongest person I know is…well lets start with some back story.  I used to think my Dad was just about it.  He could lift the aforementioned heavy things, he could handle anything that came up.  He could influence his world just by being around.  Everyone respected him because of who he was with not a small measure of fear attached to it.

My Dad is still a strong person.  He Still gets what he wants and can influence his world.  But he is no longer the strongest person I know.  That honor now resides with a 4 year old girl, my daughter Amelia.  Now, she can’t lift heavy things yet, but she is getting there.  She can swing a 10 lb kettlebell pretty darn good.  Her strength is a bit different.

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