Oddities, Profundities, Profanities and Dad Stuff

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A Dream, A Post, A Comment. The New Psychoanalysis.

Yesterday, I wrote a post about a strange dream that I had.  At the end, I said, “I am not sure what any of it meant at the time or has to say about my sanity, lack of it, or what can be interpreted by it.”  I also asked for comments.

My new friend Jayne Sherwood (of whom I cannot find a web site or anything but a twitter account of @jayneEsherwood please update me Jayne and I will link it in) Said in a fantastic comment:

It suggests that you will be in receipt of a great amount of something good, which says you are giving much good yourself, the shovel, symbolically may suggest digging up issues you may find difficult to deal with however, this could be supported my a strong feminine presence in the form of a cat! (in the spiritual sense, cats mean strong feminine presence). The old clothes could be that this is not a new situation that is being revisited and that there could be underlying currents that you would like to sort out.The old girlfriend may possibly be where the issue lies and the pet box may be where the strong feminine presence will need to be put and kept out of the way of your moving forward with your great gift. This is not a fact it is merely a suggestion based on spiritual meaning and symbolism.

So here is an interpretation by me of that dream from Jayne’s comment.  The Shovel digging up issues is probably correct.  I have been “digging” up many things from my past and getting rid of them lately.

I have used this business that I am creating to give all of the crap that was dished  up by my parents for the past 35 years the boot.  I am sick and tired of them being able to control me.

Last summer if a psychologist asked me what I felt like my solid answer would have been a 12 year old kid.  I was 34 years old with 3 kids, one with major health problems, 2 cars and a mortgage and I still felt like a 12 year old kid.  Scared to try things, scared to get out and do anything for fear of failure.

I was always told I could do whatever I wanted but I was so scared to fail and disappoint my dad, that I did nothing.  That still continued until I decided that they had no hold on me any more.  I know, that took a long time, but there you are.  Now I am free of my parents, they are Grandparents now, and I am no longer under their control.

I believe the strong female presence of the cat could point to my wife.  She is currently pregnant with our 4th child and I can’t think of anything stronger about a woman than having a child.

Of course I need to get rid of the cat, so that would say strongly that it is not my wife but I would go back to my mother.  The only other females that have anything to do with my life are my daughters, 10 and 4.

So I am going to say my mother would be the cat I need to get rid of, put in a container, and send away.  All for the same reasons I need a shovel.

Old clothes, I thought was just to not ruin something new while disposing of the cat but now it probably means that it is the same old thing that has been going on for 35 years.

As for the old girlfriend, not an issue at all.  I have been married for 12 years and dated my wife for 5 years before that.  All of the old girlfriend stuff is long since gone.  There was never one serious enough to have any residual hangups about.

I can only hope that the great amount of something good relates to my blog and the money that I hope to make from it.  I need the mental presence to keep up with the site and keep it working like it should so it is viable as an income source and I can continue to stay home.

So that was quite the insight into a seemingly silly and inconsequential dream.  I am glad that Jayne found it and left the comment.  Dream interpretations can be very interesting.

I would love to hear what you have to say in the comment section below.  Don’t forget, Saturday Fiction is coming tomorrow!

-Justin

A 6 Point Plan to Happiness

I came up with this great title and then had to figure out how to fill it.  This is my list.  This is my 6 point plan for MY Happiness.  I think that anyone could benefit from it though.  They are in no specific order other than this is how they fell out of my head.

I would like to hear other thoughts on what makes you happy. If I get enough comments I will post a followup with plenty of links.

You have your assignment.  Go.  Read.  Comment.  Be Happy!

1. Be satisfied with yourself. I don’t know how many people actually strive for satisfied with themselves.  There is a huge push in the world to be better.  To be more.  To get into a better situation.  Why can’t we just be satisfied with ourselves?  For the most part I am satisfied with me.  There are things that I want to improve, but I could stay right where I am and be happy.

2.  Kids. I can’t imagine my life without my kids.  As frustrated and as mad as I can get at them, I wouldn’t trade them for anything on the planet.  There is such a content joy that can be had from seeing my kids ride their bikes outside, or play with the dog, or just run, laughing all of the time.  One of my all time favorite memories is of my son at 5 years old, running his heart out (by himself be it noted) pulling his red wagon and laughing like a madman.  I will never lose memories like that.  Knowing that he is that happy because I have given him the ability to run, the wagon to pull, and the house to run in front of , is happiness in itself.

3.  Hobbies Everyone needs something to do besides work.  I have a potload of interests and hobbies but my favorite is fishing.  I could fish all of the time.  Every day.  Most nights.  My wife is sick of me talking about fishing.  She forbade me from taking her fishing for her birthday yesterday.

4. Simplify There is great happiness that can be had from getting rid of the chaff that we accumulate in this life.  Philosophers have always talked about simplifying your life.  Buddhist monks teach themselves to let go of everything and become empty before they can be filled with enlightenment.   Being able to purge all of the crap we had saved over the years, all of the hand me downs for the house and all of the stuff we may “need” is wonderfully freeing.  Living without credit cards saved our butts during the recession of the past couple of years.  Didn’t really affect us at all, and good thing too, Dialysis and a kidney transplant are expensive enough without interest from a credit card.

5. Spouse/Significant Other I know this will be debated but one of the best things in my life is my wife.  I like to have her around, I like to be married.  In our religion we believe that we are forming eternal families here on Earth, and I have found the perfect person to do that with.  We get along well, we are not too hard on each other, and we work well together.  A cornerstone of my Happiness for sure.  We will have been married 12 years in May and dating for 17 in September!

6. Don’t miss the opportunity to teach others.    There is so much to give back that it is impossible to do so.  Take the opportunities as they come to teach others what you know.  Whether it be someone a world away over the internet being taught PHP code or your neighbor that you can teach to change the air filter on his lawn mower so it runs better.  If you can teach your kids to do something doesn’t it make you happy when they can repeat it?  Give as much as you can back to the universe.

This is not a complete and comprehensive post by any means.  Just go and be happy.

-Justin